Category Mythbusting

Do what you love: the perfect con

‘Do what you love’ is the siren call of the twenty-first century. But it could be the perfect con. “Do what you love”, says Marc Anthony, “and you’ll never work a day in your life.” Of course, it’s good for Marc Anthony to suggest so; he’s the top selling tropical salsa artist of all time, a two-time Grammy and five-time Latin Grammy winner. Winners are great at encouraging others to

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Work hard. Play hard. What a bunch of bull.

Work hard play hard used to be my motto. It used to be (almost) what defined me. As 40 raps her tired knuckles against my birthday this year, I have seen a distinct change in how I operate. The little hell cat that used to go out every night after work in her 20’s (I did shift work, it was kind of OK to hit the clubs at midnight back

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Defining boundaries in business, and saying no

You define your boundaries, nobody else. You decide what’s acceptable, and what’s not. You decide which hours of which days you’re available for clients, and when you’re not working. You decide which hours of which days you’re working on your business. You decide when you need to receive payment by. You write your terms and conditions, enforce them and you get to decide when or if they can be waived

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What did you want to be when you grew up?

What did you want to be when you grew up? Such a dangerous question. It’s thick around the edges with loss and laced with the bitter taste of disappointment. When you look at your child self who would have screamed “nurse!” or “fireman!” or in my case “writer and actor!” and then return to who you are now, sometimes the gap between the desire and the reality is dizzying. We

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The genius of action

I love to leap before I look. When I was 18, I hired my local community centre hall and started teaching yoga, which I’d fallen in love with precisely six months prior. (Seventeen years later, I’m now a senior qualified teacher working in yoga marketing.) When I was 22, I started working as a tour leader, leading groups of people through two countries that I’d never visited before. This job

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Freedom to choose your unhappiness

Freedom is the clarion call of people the world over. Freedom is often synonymous with travel, self-expression, and ease. We may well have grown up hearing our parents talk about education equaling choice equaling freedom equaling happiness. Happiness was implied, if not explicit. But there’s a major problem with this equation. Having the freedom to choose doesn’t lead to happiness, but may well lead to unhappiness. Choice and anxiety In

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